I Want Out Of This Marriage!

Have you found yourself saying - "I Want Out Of This Marriage!" - "The Love is GONE!" - "In Fact -I HATE YOU!"

What are our relationships coming to? -No lets refine that, what are our marriages coming to? -I have a few friends males and females who are married and seem to be living in.... in.....another world of reasoning. I don't wanna judge here, but understand. Why are we falling out of love with our mates. -Oh well I know they can be some real pain in the ass, self-centered, inconsiderate, ass-holes, but how do we not LOVE them anymore? How do we not care about them? How do we wish they would never return home?

I can understand if we're getting our behinds kick, and our heads bashed in, no one should be physically or mentally abused. Now if we are not being abused by the hand or the mouth, what the hell are the other issues?

• Lack of sex?
• Dick too small?
• She's not a freak, or can't suck dick?
• He don't eat pussy?
• He's old fashion?
• He / She is a whore?
• They don't like kids?
• They only have love for the children?
• They don't keep a clean home?
• Can't cook?
• They're fat?
• They're don't have no ass?
• They fart in their sleep?
• They leave stains in their underwear?
• My family hates them?
• I hate their family?
• The kids belongs to someone else?
• I never love them from the beginning!

What are the issues we're having with getting along, and loving our spouse? Now y'all know I keeps it real, and I don't mind putting it out there. I used to have this girlfriend who FUCK! -and she knew it. She thought her shit was so good and I was so wrapped up into her, that she actually had the nerves to tell me, "this dick is mine, and I don't want you to give it to no one else, not even your wife..."

Well I looked at her strangely, got dress, and didn't answer her, and like with every woman, she wanted to know what the hell was I thinking about her remark, and if you know me......you know I kept it real, I mean she had the bomb ass pussy, you feel me. So I told her....
"If you don't want me fucking no one else, that's cool, and I won't. -But my wife will get all that she wants, when she wants it, and how she wants it, because it belongs to her...."

Well yes that was the last time I seen that piece of ass, but did she really think I was going to comply with that statement? -Would you? Tell me how many of you have heard this and live up to it? -Tell the truth because the shit is very common, and a man will tell a woman this shit on every heartbeat. -Hell my wife heard from her lovers "you can't fuck your husband if you're fucking me..."

My point is, are we loving, or lusting for something other than what we have?
Now to love or lust does not have to be another person, it could be your Job, your friends, your FREEDOM.

I have friends who are undergoing separations for so many reasons that can be fixed. I ask you "have our hearts harden that much we no longer seek God's way?"

Are you looking to get out because it's easier to leave, than to love? -And if so then was your love just a lie?

Or did we get ourselves into something, and gave up too much of ourselves at the beginning and now we feel it's too far down the road to claim it all back, unless we leave?

1. This situation can be worked out if you still have love in your heart for this person. If it's too hard to sit and talk about it, then you need counseling. -Men are the hardest animals to convince this is a needed solution. For one we (I'm included) don't want some outsider coming into my personal space and then judge every damn thing, and worst, I have to pay them to do it! -But you must find a way to convince him it's the right thing to do, to maintain a stable relationship between the both of you.

2. Not getting enough sex? Or they don't do it right? -It can be worked out if you still have love for this person. You need to talk to your partner. Let me say this once, "Fuck their damn ego!" Unless you already created a monster. -Like...Because you have been so afraid to mention it over the years, you don't know how to break it to them. If you're not too frustrated the words that will usually work are, "I was read this article, and I wanna try...." Make sure you can find the supporting documents, just in case the people you have like to check stuff out for themselves.

3. What are some good ways to avoid psychical abuse? Family and friends. Abusers love to isolate their prey. If you're just starting to date someone, learn this important rule: never separate yourself from family, or friends. This goes for men also. Closing your doors to the outside world does not help someone with their insecurities, it supports their behavior. Notice the word BEHAVIOR. This person is not emotionally sound. -If you have family, keep the men close (if you're a woman, and vesa, versa if you're a man), because family will usually protect family. Well most of the time.

But if you're being abused it's not going to be easy to get from under the conditions that's there. A lot of people don't understand the conditions and obstacles another person face when they are being abused. -I don't support abuse, and will never tell you to stay and work it out. Hell No. Get out of that situation. If you have no money, which is on of the traits for control. You need to find someone you can trust or have a very good hiding place, so you can start saving change. Find or contact some National Abuse Centers, like Rainn. Never keep this info in the house, read it and destroy it. Find out about your legal options, but please don't that the police will help you. They have laws they must follow, and protection orders don't stop the crazies. Take pictures of yourself after each attack. It would be good to document, this stuff, but on the same token it can play against you, because people don't understand why you would continue to live like that. -I have listen to so much women in abusive marriages, and getting out is so damn hard, especially with you're broken.

Whatever other issues besides abuse, lets see if we can find a remedy for it instead of divorce. Post your problems or solutions.

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Man to Man - I am not Afraid

A couple of days ago my son and I was conversing, near the end of our conversation we discuss the issue of money. He has this nice little Smart Phone, that he's looking to sale to me, and we were talking about the terms of payment. -Now when I told him my wife and I discussed the issue of the phone and she kinda went along with me that I need and can use such a phone, he looked at me and said, "I'm a shame of you Father."

And I'm like, "What?"

"You're not looking too, manly right now. We'll talk later."

And I'm like, "what do you mean? What's up?"

"Do you make your own money?"

Then I got it. He explain himself, and he pretty much has this idealism like a lot of young man have (even some older ones), that "what's yours, is yours, and what's mine, is mine," and "real men answer to no one," attitude.

I had to let him know, that is not the case in a marriage. Maybe while you're girlfriend and boyfriend, but not as a husband and wife.

He told me I was soft, I told him this; A marriage is a union of one, and a family is one unit of many. I am not soft, I am a husband. Yes I am a man. I will always be a man, and I don't need to state that to the world every five minutes, nor do I need anyone to validate that fact for me.

I don't understand how men who seek marriage, and are husbands can hold on to this notion, that their money belongs to them. -Well............If you are single (or a hardheaded husband), let me be the first or second person to tell you....."You work, and work hard, but your paycheck does not belongs to you." It belongs to your family, and I mean every freakin' dime.

To think that what you make belongs to you and the final decision about what happens with it is, is yours, and yours alone is a myth. You got that crab from some cheap bastard who refused to get up off his because he was selfish.

A Husband and Wife is not two joined into one, they are One, and everything decision is made by one. To have any other idealism or conception will divide the union. Remember:

Luk 11:17 But He, knowing their thoughts, said to them: "Every kingdom divided against itself is made desolate, and a house divided against a house falls.

My wife and I are one. What we do, we do as one. -And when I said I do, I actually said I agree to live for her, my life belong to her, as she for me.

Fellas we need to stop the sperating and dividing our homes. I will tell you as a fact when my wife and I operate as one, there ain't nothing we can't do, but we start that I only made X this week so I'll give you............that is division. Bring it all to the table and plan what goes where. It's not about how you slice it, just that you slice it together in agreement.


Please my brother teach your son, or your sister kids, your brother kids, that kid who looks up to you, teach them the real deal, and not that selfish B.S. that keeps families divided.



Peace.

Man to Man - Lets Kill Our Spouse

This Goes Out To The Brothers - Man to Man Lets Kill Our Spouse

Come on brothers, why don't we just put the gun their heads, and pull the trigger. Lets send these bitches straight to HELL.

We don't love them, right? We know good damn well, we can do better without them.

They're only good to have around for freakin, to wash and iron our clothes, cook, keep an eye on the kids, and bring home a paycheck to help us get the new 4x4, and keep up with our other new toys, right?

I don't understand why have to hear from my female friends the SHIT some of you so call MEN put your women, and worse, your WIVES through.

How the hell can you make your woman move furniture from one house to another and move the old stuff into storage while you watch T.V. and go to work. -And I'm not talking about a lamp. - How does a single woman move four rooms of furniture in a course of three days! Hell why don't you put the gun to her head and pulled the trigger. ( Now this gun is called STRESS, which is a killer).

Why does you wife have to end up in the hospital with chest pains, heads spinning and a BP reading near 170/110

What? Oh you say that's not you. You don't do stuff like that.

Now are you the type of brother who will stress your woman to a point where she need to find comfort and understanding from another, where she's willing to give them all the sex they want just to provide them with what you can't give..............which is support and understanding.

I don't know how many women I sexed because they was willing to give themselves to me because I was willing to sit listen and communicate with them.

Support your woman, even when you don't agree with them, support them. Don't be little your woman in front of your family, friends or your kids. To tell your child "you don't have to listen to her," is f**k up. First to take away authority from her is unheard of. Second to refer to your other half as her making her non-descript. Well who the f**k is you? .........Your what? .....I don't think so, I say your a man who's about to lose what you got to someone who may not half the man you are.....ha, ha. Being that you're all that. -What a joke.

Look I've done my dirt, and I've did some stuff that just plan oh low down, but I've never put anything, or anyone over my wife. My Wife is my First Lady, and yes she is even above my mother. -And don't nobody mess with my moms. So what does that tell ya.

Your woman is your woman, your wife is your wife, understand the word YOUR (it does not emply owership) you are to take care of her.

Support your woman, help her, give yourself unto her. Shit keep her happy she may not mind you screwing half the women on the otherside of town.....................

Just let her know she is still the woman you wanted and willing to keep above all other things.

Peace out

Man to Man - A lesson I taught to my son

Man to Man - A lesson I taught to my son




A couple of years back, my son picked up this habit of calling females bitches and hoes, and he was beginning to show very little respect for his counter part. How I addressed this issue I'll leave for another day. This attitude he picked up came from where most men do their pick-ups, from other fucked up men.

Now my son and his friends was hating on this one young lady and women in general, because this fucked up bitch got pregnant by one of his boys and he didn't like the bitch, she was just a booty call, she's trying to trap him, she's a hoe, and so on, and so on.

I sat him and a few of his boys down to talk about this: I asked them what did they think about their boy who got this girl locked up. Well he was cool and the whole nine. Then I told them what I think and that was that their boy was showed lack of character, was irresponsible, showed lack of judgment, was still a child in maturity because he to be accountable.

The Lesson: Protect your seed

I told these young men, to never lay with any woman they are not ready to marry and spend the rest of their lives with.

1. What does it say about you when you choose to lay down and fuck a bitch or a hoe?

2. What does it say about you choose to plant your seeds into the bitch, or hoe, or drama Queen?

3. How can you give your seed to someone you care nothing for? -And at what point will you accept resonsibility and become accountable?

All of this thinking should have been done long before your dick got hard. You have to think enough about the value of your seeds, and children, and to whom you give them to. If you're not ready to live with this woman for the rest of your life then why would you invite her into your world and give her your gems. You will be bonded to this woman for life, or for as long as YOUR child lives. So make the right choice, but as with any choice be a man and stand by it.

Don't say, "I'm a young man who make a mistake and got his low down bitch pregnant." You should say, "I'm the mother fuckin' nasty low down bastard the got this fucked up, low life bitch locked up with a fuckin' puppy."


I'm just keepin' it real, I've never fucked a woman and laid my seeds within her if I wasn't ready to spend my life with her, because that would have been the result of it.

I'm happy to say they listen, and they're now making better choices. Glory be to God..

Man to Man - Stop beating up on the pussy

Man to Man - Stop Beating up on the pussy



I gotta tell you. I hear a lot of stuff from the ladies, and I get ask to just inform some of the brothers about the do's and don'ts on women and making love.

I don't know how they figure I have any knowledge of to share. I don't know much about anything, and women are way to hard to understand.............but I will try.

I recently coached my adopted son on how to woo this young woman he had is eyes on..................He's 22 years old and she's a 29 year old physiologist.......so I might be able to help a few of my brothers.

In my youth and my whoring days, I tried to learn everything possible about a woman. There are two type of men when it comes to women, those who love women and those who love pussy.

The ones who love women, are always around women, they don't talk down to women, they talk to women, they try relate to a woman. They listen and they only offer help if she ask for it. They try to keep their eyes on the woman's face and not her breast. They assist women in daily task, and they don't talk about other women in a distructive view, and this is big, they don't kiss and tell.

The ones who love pussy, are always with their boys, they talk at women and believe most women have a subservient roll in life. They always offer women their opinions because they believe a woman is too emotional, and unstable to make a logical decision on her own. They see women as objects. They rarely offer help or assitance to, and they don't mind talking about a bitch, and they don't mind telling everyone the bitch don't suck dick so she's not a keeper.

I love women. I want to know every thing about them. I love talking with them, learning their secrets, and their untold secrets. -I bet most of you guys thought they only had secrets they don't tell, well that's not correct, the stuff they don't tell us guys are not secrets, it's just shit they won't tell us. Standard secrets are the ones they will share with certain friends, and the untold secrets are the ones no one knows.

You should wanna know that she gets her freakish just before her period. You wanna know what helps to ease her pain when she's on her period, chocolate, tea, coffee, your thighs, a heating blanket.

You should know that every move, every word does not work with every woman. You must always see them as individuals. Women are in competition with each other every minute of the day, she needs to know if you can tell her from the rest. Trust me she's more aware of what's out there then you will ever know.

And with that statement, don't touch, or fuck every woman the same. Learn your girl.............how many times do I tell my brothers learn YOUR girl. It's hard when you first meet a woman, but that's where conversation comes in, talk about it, and listen when she speaks.................A lot of women don't like the pussy getting beat up.........and that's what some of you dudes be doing........beating the shit out of the pussy......her pussy should be sore because she was greedy and took a little more than she should have, not because her fucking pelvis is cracked in three locations.

I met a sister who refuse to let me go down on her.......she was frighten......Why? -Because the first time she let a man go there......he really tried to eat her. He put the woman in the hospital.............thank God she still likes dick.

Don't put your teeth on the clit and bite down........No.......don't do that.....that's bad...........real bad. Remember this is the most sensitive part of her organ and it's the driest. HINT......HINT! Keep your fingers clean, cut the damn nails and learn to have a soft touch. If you learn the power of touch you can make any woman moist, at any time you want to. Touch is powerful.

Learn this word ForePlay. This is shit you do before you fuck. Statistic shows for every 20 minutes of foreplay you can get about 20 to 25 minutes of straight fucking.

Learn that big dicks don't do the trick.........talent does. Every woman wants a big fat dick, but they need one to feel what they're not feeling......and that's an orgasm.....The Big O.

Learn to give her small climaxes then build her up for the big one. Learn what positions she likes, but equally learn what position she cums with.........yes they are different, she might tell you no, but if you learn her, you'll learn things that are not so obvious. A lot of women love doggy style, and can cum in that position, but remember you're straight fuckin, her clit is getting almost NO stimulation. Learn to us toys they can help. It has nothing to do with your manhood, it's about bring her to levels of estasy she had never been.

If you wanna know more, I can start a class........I'll make it a one day class, once a year cost is $300.00 for men, $450.00 for a couple. No more then ten couples, and you can't be shy, must be open minded and welling to learn. -This is not a fuck fest, that's given by a friend of mind who's bi, and you must bring a bi-woman for entry who's willing to be done by many others. And don't contact me about that, I won't respond. ........Yo.........I joking.

I'm too old for this...........I'm trying to sell books here, and not fuck your girl.






A few responses:






NOTHING BUT THE OLD SCHOOL, R.I.P ROOSTER.
Ok I need to come to that class and bring a few men.




Author Lord'Williams Personal Friends
The class is already growing.....................lol.................bring them.........we can work on them........LOL





+minx+*
amen love, thank you for writing this.




Author Lord'Williams Personal Friends
Hey just for Mz Cat........................How is our child doing................hope to see you soon..................Love you






Get on my Level
This was great. We have 4 sons three of which are teenagers and dating and we have weekly and sometimesdaily discussions about subjects like this. We are very open parents and talk to our sons about anything and everything. It is so important for them to know the differences. This was a great blog. All men need to pay attention. Attentiveness goes a long way.




Author Lord'Williams Personal Friends
Teach them, and more so let your man do the teaching on the subject of women. When it comes from a woman, the first thing we think is you're trying to make us soft





Get on my Level
I completely disagree because as a woman I am the one who is able to teach them about the games that women play and the woman side of things. True enough my husband is able to tell them from a mans point of view but I am able to tell them about womens emotions and feelings. A man cannot teach another man about a womans inner most feelings just like a woman cannot teach a man about a mans innermost feelings. Sure as men you can sit down and talk to women, get to know all about them but only a woman can truly tell you their emotions as a whole. I am blessed that my sons don't think that I am trying to make them soft because in no means are they. But you have to remember dad is gone 90% of the time serving the country so mom is all they have during that time.





Author Lord'Williams Personal Friends
Then accept my apologies. You are correct when you say, only a woman can explain the innermost feelings of a woman, I can not take that away from any woman. -Now pops is gone 90% of the time currently, but he wasn't always gone. He set up a repore with his boys, and through his dealings with you he showed them that it's okay to trust you and your ideas............Now argue this all you want, but you don't know men ideology..............They recieved this by word of mouth, by his reacts to your conversation, by his response to your emotions.............In single parents home where the male is missing, these are the signals that are missing.......
Now when mama tells me to watch out for this and that, is mama telling don't trust these young girls? ...............I remember when my Mother told me not to ever kiss a girl private..............Shit I counldn't wait to eat a girl out..........and I've been eating pussy since I was 11 yrs.
But lets flip it...........The woman tells her son the do/don't and be nice and watch how you spent your money on them and so on, and so on...........He does as he was told............and we know he's going to get his heart broken........and when this happen then what? Now if you have brothers, then you know what's next......he hate females.............now you might redeem him once or twice, but after one or two heart breaks he's not working with mom no more, and that's straight up truth.
I tip my hat to all you women who's out there trying to rise a male child. It's not easy as it would not be for a man to deal with a female child. I pray for all of you.






Ms. Nicky
Thanks for the class I will be sure to pass it on......





Author Lord'Williams Personal Friends
Please do Ms. Nicky..........Please do.





Leila Jefferson-Author with Ambition!!
straight up..u really do need to give a class, lol...it would be well worth the money spent, cuz the points u've touched, many men don't know that..oh lord...i've been with the banger that just knows how to rabbit fuck and that's it..and i've been with the one that wanna damn near bite my clit off...and the ones that don't believe in foreplay..or think they should do the exact same thing with everyone, lol...only 10 couples is being stingy of ur knowledge to the world, lol...u need more like 10,000 couples, lol...every month...OR, write a book on that..with pictures :-D





Author Lord'Williams Personal Friends
With pictures!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hey Mz Jefferson the pictures are a bit too much, but wait..........wait a minute........how about video..................now I just have to find those who are willing to show and tell...........................LOL




Leila Jefferson-Author with Ambition!!
shiiiit....i gotta video camera :-D...get some recruits and I'm taping the instructional, lmao





Author Lord'Williams Personal Friends
Mz Jay you ain't right, but hell we can go 50/50...............I'm down!!!!!!!!!!!!

LOL




REENA
i know some one right now that need to read this better yet take the class and add few more dollars for free. i enjoyed this and this will help alot of young boys trying to be men and a lot of mens who fuck like young boys fist time out and they are in there 30's as well as older. so yea a book would be nice on this subject but the video would bring you in a lot of money in.





SuGaR & SpIcE
Hello Irving,
What you said is so true. Some men just don't know anything and don't ever try to understand a woman and how her sexual needs are and how they differ from theirs. If men would just listen as you say to their girl they will learn what she likes in the bedroom and what she doesn't like. Instead they are trying to be in control and bossy when making love and at the same time they Don't Be Doing anything that she likes and she isn't satisfied but they are !! She is upset and he wants to know why! I better stop while I am ahead I could tell you some things that would knock your shoes off! But you did a marvellous job doing this yourself.
Keep up the good work!
You sure know a lot about relationships.
You are a very Talented writer and a Observative person.
I answered this the way that I wanted to I did read it all and everything you said is true. Some things I just had to comment on specially.
Your Dearest Friend Teresa!





Author Lord'Williams Personal Friends
Mz Tee is sound like you should copy this and print this out!




MistyBlue
Irving, you are so right about men learning their woman/women. I was involved years ago with a man that was eleven years older than me. At some point, he knew what I was feeling/thinking before I even said a word. After a couple of years together, I asked him how he did that. He told me when he's interested in a woman, he studies her every move, reaction, her words, he listen to everything she say, big or small, important or unimportant, he studies her reactions to his touch, to his words. He remembered everything. You talk about being open, I was open and loved every minute of it. I learned what it felt like to be treated the way a woman is suppose to be treated. From that time on, I have never accepted less. That was my pattern of a real man and I know I deserve nothing less. It is a relationship that I will carry in my heart always. I was living in another state at the time, then I move to NY. But thankfully we're still friends and always keep in touch. When I manage to go back, we always go out to dinner. He will always be my friend although the imitate part is long over. He taught me all about men and their games. I couldn't teach him anything about women, he already knew everything he needed to know.It's so nice not to have to teach someone what feels good and what doesn't. I have never been shy about saying what I like, how I like it and where I like it. Sex is great and if I'm going to do it, I HAVE TO ENJOY IT, I have to, and I like having it 'MY WAY'. In return, I don't mind you having it your way. It has to be mutual. Needless to say, I have never met another man like him to this day. Some have come very close. But I also realized later on in life that every man is his own person and that no one can measure to him. Every man has his own measure. So I had to do a little teaching from time to time. Besides, I'm a good teacher. But I still insist on being treated like a lady, at least in public.....The bedroom, that's another story.Hugs,Bee




Author Lord'Williams Personal Friends
Mz Bee you've done it again, in fact I might use this in a blog, I hope you don't mind, but you got something to say and I'm going to exploit it........LOL