A couple of days ago my son and I was conversing, near the end of our conversation we discuss the issue of money. He has this nice little Smart Phone, that he's looking to sale to me, and we were talking about the terms of payment. -Now when I told him my wife and I discussed the issue of the phone and she kinda went along with me that I need and can use such a phone, he looked at me and said, "I'm a shame of you Father."
And I'm like, "What?"
"You're not looking too, manly right now. We'll talk later."
And I'm like, "what do you mean? What's up?"
"Do you make your own money?"
Then I got it. He explain himself, and he pretty much has this idealism like a lot of young man have (even some older ones), that "what's yours, is yours, and what's mine, is mine," and "real men answer to no one," attitude.
I had to let him know, that is not the case in a marriage. Maybe while you're girlfriend and boyfriend, but not as a husband and wife.
He told me I was soft, I told him this; A marriage is a union of one, and a family is one unit of many. I am not soft, I am a husband. Yes I am a man. I will always be a man, and I don't need to state that to the world every five minutes, nor do I need anyone to validate that fact for me.
I don't understand how men who seek marriage, and are husbands can hold on to this notion, that their money belongs to them. -Well............If you are single (or a hardheaded husband), let me be the first or second person to tell you....."You work, and work hard, but your paycheck does not belongs to you." It belongs to your family, and I mean every freakin' dime.
To think that what you make belongs to you and the final decision about what happens with it is, is yours, and yours alone is a myth. You got that crab from some cheap bastard who refused to get up off his because he was selfish.
A Husband and Wife is not two joined into one, they are One, and everything decision is made by one. To have any other idealism or conception will divide the union. Remember:
Luk 11:17 But He, knowing their thoughts, said to them: "Every kingdom divided against itself is made desolate, and a house divided against a house falls.
My wife and I are one. What we do, we do as one. -And when I said I do, I actually said I agree to live for her, my life belong to her, as she for me.
Fellas we need to stop the sperating and dividing our homes. I will tell you as a fact when my wife and I operate as one, there ain't nothing we can't do, but we start that I only made X this week so I'll give you............that is division. Bring it all to the table and plan what goes where. It's not about how you slice it, just that you slice it together in agreement.
Please my brother teach your son, or your sister kids, your brother kids, that kid who looks up to you, teach them the real deal, and not that selfish B.S. that keeps families divided.
Peace.
