Seven Pounds

This movie is awesome! -The story synopsis you might need to look up, but it's about a I.R.S agent who takes a personal interest into the lives of others, for reasons I will not go into. For you to understand and feel this movie, you need to know nothing about it. -But not that if you do it will change much.

Will Smith did a beautiful job in portraying the raw and usually unscripted emotions of Love, Pain, and Agony. This movie touch me a lot because it remind me of the novels I've written and will release. Will Smith displays the price we all must pay for love. He define how blissful it is to be in love, the agony of losing it, and what can spore from it seeds.

How often is it that we get to concentrate on what we birth from our act of loving/hating/cheating until we have seen the full blossom from its seeding? -Seven Pounds will make you think, and be thankful. If you are a romantic at heart, you will love this movie, because it has the classic boy meet girl, girl falls in love with boy, boy try to fight off that love for girl, but love wins in the ends. -But Seven Pounds is about how love wins in the end, just like in my Unicorns novels.

So what are your thoughts on Seven Pounds? Did you like it? Was it what you thought it was about? Were you touched? Speak on it.

Now if you just so happen to like this movie, then you need to start reading my novel, Shadows of the Heart. -It's an unscripted love story between a husband and wife, God and mankind.

I Want Out Of This Marriage!

Have you found yourself saying - "I Want Out Of This Marriage!" - "The Love is GONE!" - "In Fact -I HATE YOU!"

What are our relationships coming to? -No lets refine that, what are our marriages coming to? -I have a few friends males and females who are married and seem to be living in.... in.....another world of reasoning. I don't wanna judge here, but understand. Why are we falling out of love with our mates. -Oh well I know they can be some real pain in the ass, self-centered, inconsiderate, ass-holes, but how do we not LOVE them anymore? How do we not care about them? How do we wish they would never return home?

I can understand if we're getting our behinds kick, and our heads bashed in, no one should be physically or mentally abused. Now if we are not being abused by the hand or the mouth, what the hell are the other issues?

• Lack of sex?
• Dick too small?
• She's not a freak, or can't suck dick?
• He don't eat pussy?
• He's old fashion?
• He / She is a whore?
• They don't like kids?
• They only have love for the children?
• They don't keep a clean home?
• Can't cook?
• They're fat?
• They're don't have no ass?
• They fart in their sleep?
• They leave stains in their underwear?
• My family hates them?
• I hate their family?
• The kids belongs to someone else?
• I never love them from the beginning!

What are the issues we're having with getting along, and loving our spouse? Now y'all know I keeps it real, and I don't mind putting it out there. I used to have this girlfriend who FUCK! -and she knew it. She thought her shit was so good and I was so wrapped up into her, that she actually had the nerves to tell me, "this dick is mine, and I don't want you to give it to no one else, not even your wife..."

Well I looked at her strangely, got dress, and didn't answer her, and like with every woman, she wanted to know what the hell was I thinking about her remark, and if you know me......you know I kept it real, I mean she had the bomb ass pussy, you feel me. So I told her....
"If you don't want me fucking no one else, that's cool, and I won't. -But my wife will get all that she wants, when she wants it, and how she wants it, because it belongs to her...."

Well yes that was the last time I seen that piece of ass, but did she really think I was going to comply with that statement? -Would you? Tell me how many of you have heard this and live up to it? -Tell the truth because the shit is very common, and a man will tell a woman this shit on every heartbeat. -Hell my wife heard from her lovers "you can't fuck your husband if you're fucking me..."

My point is, are we loving, or lusting for something other than what we have?
Now to love or lust does not have to be another person, it could be your Job, your friends, your FREEDOM.

I have friends who are undergoing separations for so many reasons that can be fixed. I ask you "have our hearts harden that much we no longer seek God's way?"

Are you looking to get out because it's easier to leave, than to love? -And if so then was your love just a lie?

Or did we get ourselves into something, and gave up too much of ourselves at the beginning and now we feel it's too far down the road to claim it all back, unless we leave?

1. This situation can be worked out if you still have love in your heart for this person. If it's too hard to sit and talk about it, then you need counseling. -Men are the hardest animals to convince this is a needed solution. For one we (I'm included) don't want some outsider coming into my personal space and then judge every damn thing, and worst, I have to pay them to do it! -But you must find a way to convince him it's the right thing to do, to maintain a stable relationship between the both of you.

2. Not getting enough sex? Or they don't do it right? -It can be worked out if you still have love for this person. You need to talk to your partner. Let me say this once, "Fuck their damn ego!" Unless you already created a monster. -Like...Because you have been so afraid to mention it over the years, you don't know how to break it to them. If you're not too frustrated the words that will usually work are, "I was read this article, and I wanna try...." Make sure you can find the supporting documents, just in case the people you have like to check stuff out for themselves.

3. What are some good ways to avoid psychical abuse? Family and friends. Abusers love to isolate their prey. If you're just starting to date someone, learn this important rule: never separate yourself from family, or friends. This goes for men also. Closing your doors to the outside world does not help someone with their insecurities, it supports their behavior. Notice the word BEHAVIOR. This person is not emotionally sound. -If you have family, keep the men close (if you're a woman, and vesa, versa if you're a man), because family will usually protect family. Well most of the time.

But if you're being abused it's not going to be easy to get from under the conditions that's there. A lot of people don't understand the conditions and obstacles another person face when they are being abused. -I don't support abuse, and will never tell you to stay and work it out. Hell No. Get out of that situation. If you have no money, which is on of the traits for control. You need to find someone you can trust or have a very good hiding place, so you can start saving change. Find or contact some National Abuse Centers, like Rainn. Never keep this info in the house, read it and destroy it. Find out about your legal options, but please don't that the police will help you. They have laws they must follow, and protection orders don't stop the crazies. Take pictures of yourself after each attack. It would be good to document, this stuff, but on the same token it can play against you, because people don't understand why you would continue to live like that. -I have listen to so much women in abusive marriages, and getting out is so damn hard, especially with you're broken.

Whatever other issues besides abuse, lets see if we can find a remedy for it instead of divorce. Post your problems or solutions.

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Man to Man - I am not Afraid

A couple of days ago my son and I was conversing, near the end of our conversation we discuss the issue of money. He has this nice little Smart Phone, that he's looking to sale to me, and we were talking about the terms of payment. -Now when I told him my wife and I discussed the issue of the phone and she kinda went along with me that I need and can use such a phone, he looked at me and said, "I'm a shame of you Father."

And I'm like, "What?"

"You're not looking too, manly right now. We'll talk later."

And I'm like, "what do you mean? What's up?"

"Do you make your own money?"

Then I got it. He explain himself, and he pretty much has this idealism like a lot of young man have (even some older ones), that "what's yours, is yours, and what's mine, is mine," and "real men answer to no one," attitude.

I had to let him know, that is not the case in a marriage. Maybe while you're girlfriend and boyfriend, but not as a husband and wife.

He told me I was soft, I told him this; A marriage is a union of one, and a family is one unit of many. I am not soft, I am a husband. Yes I am a man. I will always be a man, and I don't need to state that to the world every five minutes, nor do I need anyone to validate that fact for me.

I don't understand how men who seek marriage, and are husbands can hold on to this notion, that their money belongs to them. -Well............If you are single (or a hardheaded husband), let me be the first or second person to tell you....."You work, and work hard, but your paycheck does not belongs to you." It belongs to your family, and I mean every freakin' dime.

To think that what you make belongs to you and the final decision about what happens with it is, is yours, and yours alone is a myth. You got that crab from some cheap bastard who refused to get up off his because he was selfish.

A Husband and Wife is not two joined into one, they are One, and everything decision is made by one. To have any other idealism or conception will divide the union. Remember:

Luk 11:17 But He, knowing their thoughts, said to them: "Every kingdom divided against itself is made desolate, and a house divided against a house falls.

My wife and I are one. What we do, we do as one. -And when I said I do, I actually said I agree to live for her, my life belong to her, as she for me.

Fellas we need to stop the sperating and dividing our homes. I will tell you as a fact when my wife and I operate as one, there ain't nothing we can't do, but we start that I only made X this week so I'll give you............that is division. Bring it all to the table and plan what goes where. It's not about how you slice it, just that you slice it together in agreement.


Please my brother teach your son, or your sister kids, your brother kids, that kid who looks up to you, teach them the real deal, and not that selfish B.S. that keeps families divided.



Peace.

Man to Man - Lets Kill Our Spouse

This Goes Out To The Brothers - Man to Man Lets Kill Our Spouse

Come on brothers, why don't we just put the gun their heads, and pull the trigger. Lets send these bitches straight to HELL.

We don't love them, right? We know good damn well, we can do better without them.

They're only good to have around for freakin, to wash and iron our clothes, cook, keep an eye on the kids, and bring home a paycheck to help us get the new 4x4, and keep up with our other new toys, right?

I don't understand why have to hear from my female friends the SHIT some of you so call MEN put your women, and worse, your WIVES through.

How the hell can you make your woman move furniture from one house to another and move the old stuff into storage while you watch T.V. and go to work. -And I'm not talking about a lamp. - How does a single woman move four rooms of furniture in a course of three days! Hell why don't you put the gun to her head and pulled the trigger. ( Now this gun is called STRESS, which is a killer).

Why does you wife have to end up in the hospital with chest pains, heads spinning and a BP reading near 170/110

What? Oh you say that's not you. You don't do stuff like that.

Now are you the type of brother who will stress your woman to a point where she need to find comfort and understanding from another, where she's willing to give them all the sex they want just to provide them with what you can't give..............which is support and understanding.

I don't know how many women I sexed because they was willing to give themselves to me because I was willing to sit listen and communicate with them.

Support your woman, even when you don't agree with them, support them. Don't be little your woman in front of your family, friends or your kids. To tell your child "you don't have to listen to her," is f**k up. First to take away authority from her is unheard of. Second to refer to your other half as her making her non-descript. Well who the f**k is you? .........Your what? .....I don't think so, I say your a man who's about to lose what you got to someone who may not half the man you are.....ha, ha. Being that you're all that. -What a joke.

Look I've done my dirt, and I've did some stuff that just plan oh low down, but I've never put anything, or anyone over my wife. My Wife is my First Lady, and yes she is even above my mother. -And don't nobody mess with my moms. So what does that tell ya.

Your woman is your woman, your wife is your wife, understand the word YOUR (it does not emply owership) you are to take care of her.

Support your woman, help her, give yourself unto her. Shit keep her happy she may not mind you screwing half the women on the otherside of town.....................

Just let her know she is still the woman you wanted and willing to keep above all other things.

Peace out

Man to Man - A lesson I taught to my son

Man to Man - A lesson I taught to my son




A couple of years back, my son picked up this habit of calling females bitches and hoes, and he was beginning to show very little respect for his counter part. How I addressed this issue I'll leave for another day. This attitude he picked up came from where most men do their pick-ups, from other fucked up men.

Now my son and his friends was hating on this one young lady and women in general, because this fucked up bitch got pregnant by one of his boys and he didn't like the bitch, she was just a booty call, she's trying to trap him, she's a hoe, and so on, and so on.

I sat him and a few of his boys down to talk about this: I asked them what did they think about their boy who got this girl locked up. Well he was cool and the whole nine. Then I told them what I think and that was that their boy was showed lack of character, was irresponsible, showed lack of judgment, was still a child in maturity because he to be accountable.

The Lesson: Protect your seed

I told these young men, to never lay with any woman they are not ready to marry and spend the rest of their lives with.

1. What does it say about you when you choose to lay down and fuck a bitch or a hoe?

2. What does it say about you choose to plant your seeds into the bitch, or hoe, or drama Queen?

3. How can you give your seed to someone you care nothing for? -And at what point will you accept resonsibility and become accountable?

All of this thinking should have been done long before your dick got hard. You have to think enough about the value of your seeds, and children, and to whom you give them to. If you're not ready to live with this woman for the rest of your life then why would you invite her into your world and give her your gems. You will be bonded to this woman for life, or for as long as YOUR child lives. So make the right choice, but as with any choice be a man and stand by it.

Don't say, "I'm a young man who make a mistake and got his low down bitch pregnant." You should say, "I'm the mother fuckin' nasty low down bastard the got this fucked up, low life bitch locked up with a fuckin' puppy."


I'm just keepin' it real, I've never fucked a woman and laid my seeds within her if I wasn't ready to spend my life with her, because that would have been the result of it.

I'm happy to say they listen, and they're now making better choices. Glory be to God..

Man to Man - Stop beating up on the pussy

Man to Man - Stop Beating up on the pussy



I gotta tell you. I hear a lot of stuff from the ladies, and I get ask to just inform some of the brothers about the do's and don'ts on women and making love.

I don't know how they figure I have any knowledge of to share. I don't know much about anything, and women are way to hard to understand.............but I will try.

I recently coached my adopted son on how to woo this young woman he had is eyes on..................He's 22 years old and she's a 29 year old physiologist.......so I might be able to help a few of my brothers.

In my youth and my whoring days, I tried to learn everything possible about a woman. There are two type of men when it comes to women, those who love women and those who love pussy.

The ones who love women, are always around women, they don't talk down to women, they talk to women, they try relate to a woman. They listen and they only offer help if she ask for it. They try to keep their eyes on the woman's face and not her breast. They assist women in daily task, and they don't talk about other women in a distructive view, and this is big, they don't kiss and tell.

The ones who love pussy, are always with their boys, they talk at women and believe most women have a subservient roll in life. They always offer women their opinions because they believe a woman is too emotional, and unstable to make a logical decision on her own. They see women as objects. They rarely offer help or assitance to, and they don't mind talking about a bitch, and they don't mind telling everyone the bitch don't suck dick so she's not a keeper.

I love women. I want to know every thing about them. I love talking with them, learning their secrets, and their untold secrets. -I bet most of you guys thought they only had secrets they don't tell, well that's not correct, the stuff they don't tell us guys are not secrets, it's just shit they won't tell us. Standard secrets are the ones they will share with certain friends, and the untold secrets are the ones no one knows.

You should wanna know that she gets her freakish just before her period. You wanna know what helps to ease her pain when she's on her period, chocolate, tea, coffee, your thighs, a heating blanket.

You should know that every move, every word does not work with every woman. You must always see them as individuals. Women are in competition with each other every minute of the day, she needs to know if you can tell her from the rest. Trust me she's more aware of what's out there then you will ever know.

And with that statement, don't touch, or fuck every woman the same. Learn your girl.............how many times do I tell my brothers learn YOUR girl. It's hard when you first meet a woman, but that's where conversation comes in, talk about it, and listen when she speaks.................A lot of women don't like the pussy getting beat up.........and that's what some of you dudes be doing........beating the shit out of the pussy......her pussy should be sore because she was greedy and took a little more than she should have, not because her fucking pelvis is cracked in three locations.

I met a sister who refuse to let me go down on her.......she was frighten......Why? -Because the first time she let a man go there......he really tried to eat her. He put the woman in the hospital.............thank God she still likes dick.

Don't put your teeth on the clit and bite down........No.......don't do that.....that's bad...........real bad. Remember this is the most sensitive part of her organ and it's the driest. HINT......HINT! Keep your fingers clean, cut the damn nails and learn to have a soft touch. If you learn the power of touch you can make any woman moist, at any time you want to. Touch is powerful.

Learn this word ForePlay. This is shit you do before you fuck. Statistic shows for every 20 minutes of foreplay you can get about 20 to 25 minutes of straight fucking.

Learn that big dicks don't do the trick.........talent does. Every woman wants a big fat dick, but they need one to feel what they're not feeling......and that's an orgasm.....The Big O.

Learn to give her small climaxes then build her up for the big one. Learn what positions she likes, but equally learn what position she cums with.........yes they are different, she might tell you no, but if you learn her, you'll learn things that are not so obvious. A lot of women love doggy style, and can cum in that position, but remember you're straight fuckin, her clit is getting almost NO stimulation. Learn to us toys they can help. It has nothing to do with your manhood, it's about bring her to levels of estasy she had never been.

If you wanna know more, I can start a class........I'll make it a one day class, once a year cost is $300.00 for men, $450.00 for a couple. No more then ten couples, and you can't be shy, must be open minded and welling to learn. -This is not a fuck fest, that's given by a friend of mind who's bi, and you must bring a bi-woman for entry who's willing to be done by many others. And don't contact me about that, I won't respond. ........Yo.........I joking.

I'm too old for this...........I'm trying to sell books here, and not fuck your girl.






A few responses:






NOTHING BUT THE OLD SCHOOL, R.I.P ROOSTER.
Ok I need to come to that class and bring a few men.




Author Lord'Williams Personal Friends
The class is already growing.....................lol.................bring them.........we can work on them........LOL





+minx+*
amen love, thank you for writing this.




Author Lord'Williams Personal Friends
Hey just for Mz Cat........................How is our child doing................hope to see you soon..................Love you






Get on my Level
This was great. We have 4 sons three of which are teenagers and dating and we have weekly and sometimesdaily discussions about subjects like this. We are very open parents and talk to our sons about anything and everything. It is so important for them to know the differences. This was a great blog. All men need to pay attention. Attentiveness goes a long way.




Author Lord'Williams Personal Friends
Teach them, and more so let your man do the teaching on the subject of women. When it comes from a woman, the first thing we think is you're trying to make us soft





Get on my Level
I completely disagree because as a woman I am the one who is able to teach them about the games that women play and the woman side of things. True enough my husband is able to tell them from a mans point of view but I am able to tell them about womens emotions and feelings. A man cannot teach another man about a womans inner most feelings just like a woman cannot teach a man about a mans innermost feelings. Sure as men you can sit down and talk to women, get to know all about them but only a woman can truly tell you their emotions as a whole. I am blessed that my sons don't think that I am trying to make them soft because in no means are they. But you have to remember dad is gone 90% of the time serving the country so mom is all they have during that time.





Author Lord'Williams Personal Friends
Then accept my apologies. You are correct when you say, only a woman can explain the innermost feelings of a woman, I can not take that away from any woman. -Now pops is gone 90% of the time currently, but he wasn't always gone. He set up a repore with his boys, and through his dealings with you he showed them that it's okay to trust you and your ideas............Now argue this all you want, but you don't know men ideology..............They recieved this by word of mouth, by his reacts to your conversation, by his response to your emotions.............In single parents home where the male is missing, these are the signals that are missing.......
Now when mama tells me to watch out for this and that, is mama telling don't trust these young girls? ...............I remember when my Mother told me not to ever kiss a girl private..............Shit I counldn't wait to eat a girl out..........and I've been eating pussy since I was 11 yrs.
But lets flip it...........The woman tells her son the do/don't and be nice and watch how you spent your money on them and so on, and so on...........He does as he was told............and we know he's going to get his heart broken........and when this happen then what? Now if you have brothers, then you know what's next......he hate females.............now you might redeem him once or twice, but after one or two heart breaks he's not working with mom no more, and that's straight up truth.
I tip my hat to all you women who's out there trying to rise a male child. It's not easy as it would not be for a man to deal with a female child. I pray for all of you.






Ms. Nicky
Thanks for the class I will be sure to pass it on......





Author Lord'Williams Personal Friends
Please do Ms. Nicky..........Please do.





Leila Jefferson-Author with Ambition!!
straight up..u really do need to give a class, lol...it would be well worth the money spent, cuz the points u've touched, many men don't know that..oh lord...i've been with the banger that just knows how to rabbit fuck and that's it..and i've been with the one that wanna damn near bite my clit off...and the ones that don't believe in foreplay..or think they should do the exact same thing with everyone, lol...only 10 couples is being stingy of ur knowledge to the world, lol...u need more like 10,000 couples, lol...every month...OR, write a book on that..with pictures :-D





Author Lord'Williams Personal Friends
With pictures!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hey Mz Jefferson the pictures are a bit too much, but wait..........wait a minute........how about video..................now I just have to find those who are willing to show and tell...........................LOL




Leila Jefferson-Author with Ambition!!
shiiiit....i gotta video camera :-D...get some recruits and I'm taping the instructional, lmao





Author Lord'Williams Personal Friends
Mz Jay you ain't right, but hell we can go 50/50...............I'm down!!!!!!!!!!!!

LOL




REENA
i know some one right now that need to read this better yet take the class and add few more dollars for free. i enjoyed this and this will help alot of young boys trying to be men and a lot of mens who fuck like young boys fist time out and they are in there 30's as well as older. so yea a book would be nice on this subject but the video would bring you in a lot of money in.





SuGaR & SpIcE
Hello Irving,
What you said is so true. Some men just don't know anything and don't ever try to understand a woman and how her sexual needs are and how they differ from theirs. If men would just listen as you say to their girl they will learn what she likes in the bedroom and what she doesn't like. Instead they are trying to be in control and bossy when making love and at the same time they Don't Be Doing anything that she likes and she isn't satisfied but they are !! She is upset and he wants to know why! I better stop while I am ahead I could tell you some things that would knock your shoes off! But you did a marvellous job doing this yourself.
Keep up the good work!
You sure know a lot about relationships.
You are a very Talented writer and a Observative person.
I answered this the way that I wanted to I did read it all and everything you said is true. Some things I just had to comment on specially.
Your Dearest Friend Teresa!





Author Lord'Williams Personal Friends
Mz Tee is sound like you should copy this and print this out!




MistyBlue
Irving, you are so right about men learning their woman/women. I was involved years ago with a man that was eleven years older than me. At some point, he knew what I was feeling/thinking before I even said a word. After a couple of years together, I asked him how he did that. He told me when he's interested in a woman, he studies her every move, reaction, her words, he listen to everything she say, big or small, important or unimportant, he studies her reactions to his touch, to his words. He remembered everything. You talk about being open, I was open and loved every minute of it. I learned what it felt like to be treated the way a woman is suppose to be treated. From that time on, I have never accepted less. That was my pattern of a real man and I know I deserve nothing less. It is a relationship that I will carry in my heart always. I was living in another state at the time, then I move to NY. But thankfully we're still friends and always keep in touch. When I manage to go back, we always go out to dinner. He will always be my friend although the imitate part is long over. He taught me all about men and their games. I couldn't teach him anything about women, he already knew everything he needed to know.It's so nice not to have to teach someone what feels good and what doesn't. I have never been shy about saying what I like, how I like it and where I like it. Sex is great and if I'm going to do it, I HAVE TO ENJOY IT, I have to, and I like having it 'MY WAY'. In return, I don't mind you having it your way. It has to be mutual. Needless to say, I have never met another man like him to this day. Some have come very close. But I also realized later on in life that every man is his own person and that no one can measure to him. Every man has his own measure. So I had to do a little teaching from time to time. Besides, I'm a good teacher. But I still insist on being treated like a lady, at least in public.....The bedroom, that's another story.Hugs,Bee




Author Lord'Williams Personal Friends
Mz Bee you've done it again, in fact I might use this in a blog, I hope you don't mind, but you got something to say and I'm going to exploit it........LOL

Man to Man - Who are you calling a Hoe?

Man to Man: Who Are You Calling A Hoe




Okay I just got off the phone with one of my girlfriends and she was telling me some SHIT! -But the one thing that bugged me was, this dude she's talking to called her a hoe.

Now just like I told my son and his friends, I'll say to the world.

When I comes down to whores and hoes......Men are the just that.

How can you call a woman a hoe, because she's fucking some one other then you.

Lets get down to some numbers, the woman date one person at a time every six months or so, she tries to maintain a long relationship, but lets stick with this 1 every six months...........So she sex this person she's dating, then that's two lovers a year, and if she been dating for 10 yrs. that's 20 lover minimum..............minimum..........remember that.

But us guys Black men are actually dating two to three at a time, with a lifespan of 3 to 4 months per relationship, (read Essence Jan.2005 "The New Man Sharing"). This will adverage 6 to 9 women a year, which in turn bring you to somewhere between 60 and 90 different women in a 10 yr. span. Now this does not include the bootycalls, or one night stands, or the I'm gonna get back at them relationships.

So who's the hoe? -Why do we put our women down, (and what make it so bad is women carry the same attitude as a man) because she had so many lovers in her life. We need to stop that dumb shit. "It don't look right for a woman to have so many lovers in her life." ........Please this statement is an opion, not a standard.

Stop making it hard for a woman to like dick, because yo, a lot of them are finding replacements...........dildos and another woman......they are finding out they can do without us, they have alternatives.

I rather have a woman who loves dick and knows what to do with it, then some dumb ass woman who's afraid of it.

So what if she fucked a 100 to a 1000 men, as long as the pussy is tight and she know what to do, we good to go.

And don't talk that marriage crap.....because you don't want me to go there.

Why Do You Want To Get Married

Why Do We Marry?



I sometimes get the chance to work with individuals who seek marriage, and one question I must ask is; "Why do you want to get married to this person?"
Nearly, but most certainly not all, -people of many cultures and nations seek to settle into some sort of life bonding relationship, called Marriage.

Do you, or did you seek marriage?
So what does marriage means to you?

If you are, or if you were married did it crack up to be ALL THAT or did it have it surprises?

And did those surprises change your perspective on the institution of marriage for better or worse?

Man to Man - She Can’t Have Male Friends

Man to Man - She Can’t Have Male Friends

My Brothers, my brothers, my brothers, Grace and Peace be with you all. Brothers lately I've been receiving a few notes on how their husbands, boyfriends, and even fuck buddies are dening their women to have other or any male friends.

I just finished speaking with one of my close friends and she stated she's now having this problem with her husband, and to take this one step deeper, the husband took this issue to their Pastor, who agreed with the husband and told this young woman to not have male friends because she's married.

What's your take on it my brothers, and Ministers. Is it dangerous to let our women step outside of the house?

1. Should we keep them bare foot with baby in tow and at their feet?

2. Should we keep our spies on the watch, monitor their phone calls, and emails?

3. Smack the bitch if she even think about talking to another dude or having a male friend?

4. Like what should we do to keep men, besides ourselves out of our women lives?



What is my position? - I am not afraid and I fear no man.









I'm not male but can i reply anyway?women are going to be friends with whom ever they choose no matter what, barefoot and pregnant, beat up or spied on. the people we choose to be our friends are important to us.on the other hand, it is hard to have male friends because of the man woman thing, it still comes up, but if they are truly just friends and the primary relationship is good the husband, or boyfriend really has nothing to worry about. its all about their relationship really, if the couple are strong together then , friends are just that, if its not then .....
Posted by Karen



Author Lord'Williams Personal Friends
I agree with it all. I don't see why some guys be trippin.



MistyBlue
In my opinion, any man that feels his woman shouldn't talk to or be friends with any male but him is a weak, spineless, insecure jerk and not a man at all. A man is secure in his and knows how to handle his (his business) and is not intimidated by any other brothers. If he's secure in his relationship, trusts his woman why be afraid? But just remember one thing, we women will find a way to do what we want, with whomever we want and where ever we want and there's nothing any man can do about, if that's what we want to do.Irv, I love your position. We will do what we want to do just like you men will do what you want to do. Personally, if I had a man like that, he would be just asking for it. His hands would be in my back pushing me toward another man, even when that might not be on my mind.Hugs,Bee



Author Lord'Williams Personal Friends
I hear you Ms Bee. but let me ask, when the woman choose to do these things that he wish not be done, then doesn't that prove him right in not trusting her?



MistyBlue
It doesn't prove a thing. She just didn't do what she was told. Why should she have to do what he say do? Is she a child? Is he her father? Men don't always do what we ask them not to do.I'm a woman that does not like to be told what to do. I don't dance by somebody else's music. I have my own. My thing is, accept me as I am or not at all because what you see is what you get and I'm not changing unless it's what I want to do, not because it's what someone else wants. Anyone that cannot accept me as I am, there's no need to even be together.I have a friend and I told him about a couple of friends in my life that are not going anyplace, male and female. I asked him, can you deal with it. He said he could, no problem. Well, later on I do not want to hear " I don't want you being friends with him". Because if that happens then he's gone because he lied. Can't deal with a liar. That is a real deal breaker with me. I have no time for bull. Any man that's with me has to be very strong to deal with me, 100% secure in his manhood and not afraid of me being around other men.I had a man once that told everyone that he could leave me in a room with a 100 men and not worry. He said he didn't trust the men one bit, but he did trust me. The point is whether you trust your woman or not.



Author Lord'Williams Personal Friends
Ms Bee you're too much, but I like the 100% secure in his manhood. This is the next topic, Manhood. We will get back to this in another blog.



Sweet Thickness
Hey Irving, first of all we are all adults here, and if your mate feels he can not trust you then why get married!? As for that bare foot and pregnant, Not in 2007! we make our own money. I believe you need to lay your cards on the table from jump and let your mate know you have FRIENDS……not lovers!! And if he can not understand that oh well, NEXT!!!!



Author Lord'Williams Personal Friends
Okay Nicole I can get with all of that, but let me ask you this: Are women putting it on the table from jump, because these young brothers are kicking ass just like the older ones?



Sweet Thickness
you know what? Some females do and some don't!! and that is the problem right there! I feel you should lay your cards on the table point blank, keep it real let your man know you have female and male friends.



Author Lord'Williams Personal Friends
Okay cool, so are the females who get with these guys who have control issues stupid? or just want a man at any cost? Or do they like being controled?



MistyBlue
Some think a piece of man is better than no man. I don't agree. I would rather be by myself than have a chicken shit man.




Sweet Thickness
I would say all of the above.




Author Lord'Williams Personal Friends
Hummmm? My head is beginning to tilt a little.



Author Lord'Williams Personal Friends
Alright Ms Bee and Nicole, so I guess it's safe to say that the women who accept these conditions are women who have low self esteem issuses just like the men?








Just a few responses.

Man to Man: I take what I want

(from my blog on myspace):

I do believe I've posted a blog very close to the topic I am about to post now, but it seems as if we brothers (meaning men of all race), just don't understand, marriage, ownership, property, respect, and a bunch of other shit.

Now those who know me that I get upset when I have to hear from one of my friends that they were hurt, by their partner, especially when the hurt involves RAPE.

I never understood how Man came up with the notion that a woman was his property, and that he had the right to dictate and do as he damn well pleases with her.

And let say it now, please don't let some damn fool reply that it is in the bible. -Go back and read your bible!

Is there any guy out here who knows the hurt, pain and mind-set that comes from the act of raping your other half? -And saddly, a lot of women are raped by their husbands and boyfriends.
We as husbands and boyfriends (protectors) are suppose to honor and protect our women from stupid assholes who have no interest in their well being. -We you do something like this, how do you feel? -What bullshit do you tell yourself? -How do you justify this sick act in your mind?

I am not going to go on and on about this, because I don't take people to be stupid, just fuck up, at times. I would just like to see a brother step up and admit they had forced themselves on a woman, and tell me what was they thinking then and how do they feel about that act now?

My first book review

4.0 Stars - What Lies Beyond The Shadows??????, April 6, 2008 By
Hotchklate "Coast2CoastReaders" (Bronx, N.Y.) - See all my reviews


William and Yvonne's 25 year marriage is on the rocks. Tired of her husbands infidelities Yvonne abandons him and their 5 children and gallivants off to the Bahamas with her new love interest, Robert. But William has faith that his wife will return to their family. His faith is based on the knowledge that Yvonne is not only his life partner but that their union was predetermined.


William needs Yvonne to help him unravel the mysterious and dark psychic talents he possesses. Yvonne can help him because she also possesses special talents which she battles daily to keep contained. Yvonne is terrified of the ramifications of anyone finding out about her talents. She's aware of the past mental instability that lies within the women of her family so Yvonne ignores her special abilities in hopes of avoiding the crazy house. But when confronted by a witch doctor in the Bahamas Yvonne finally accepts her predetermined purpose. Making the decision to return home isn't hard but will it be too late to help William? If that's the case than her only choice is to kill him, but can she?


Shadows of the Heart is an intense read. Author Lord' Williams skillfully intertwines a love story with something much darker. A battle between good and evil in a modern day world where a select group of people possess the power to save the entire human race. But when those powers are contained within everyday people who's hearts also contain lust and desire can the spiritual win out against the flesh? Take a ride with Mr. Williams as he reveals what lies beyond the shadows of the heart.

Self Publishing - Are you thinking about P.O.D.?

Becoming an self-published author isn't as easy as many would think, or running a publishing company as well. All the things that your traditional publishers would do for you like marketing, promotion, distribution, warehousing, and arranging book signings is all left up to you. Okay let it be known, that the big publishing houses doesn't do too much of these items either, but what little they do, can help a lot.

I'm a self published author.....no wait, most true self-publish authors would not call say I'm self-publish, for the fact that I used an P.O.D. publisher who placed their name on my book as the Publisher. So in their eyes, I was published, but I am not self-published. -And they might be right. One of the cheapest items I could have paid for was an ISBN number, and bar code. The total cost would have been under two hundred dollars, and what make this so bad was, I knew this much going in.

Now with that, a good question to ask is, "what didn't I know, when I chose to go the P.O.D. route?"

What I didn't know was I am my publisher biggest customer. The thing about using P.O.D. publishers is they sale you on the ideas of you having this great flexibility, and full control, yet their service is affordable, and easy.

I can say, yes it's easy to use their service, which still depends on the level of service you are purchasing, and it is easy to submit your work and get a printed item if you so desire out of the deal.

Lets take my debuting novel "Shadows of the Heart"



A great book mind you, the initial retail price for this novel was $21.99. I'm not stupid and I don't think anyone else were either. I know the public was not going to pay $21.99 for a paperback book from a "who are you, author?" -Hell even if they did know me, who wants to pay this type of money for a book during a recession?

So I opt to purchase a package that would knot the price down to $15.99. Still a dollar above the national average, but they had to pay me a royalty, and that royalty is $1.00 per book sold, instead of the $6.00 dollars I could have made. -Do you get it? I had to cut my royalty to make the book affordable.

Now that's not bad. I can live with that. A dollar per book sold, is cool, some authors isn't making that much. Here we go, the part that got to me was, how my publisher bragged about the author's discount could be as high as 65% off the book price. Sounds great right!

No, it wasn't because that 65% was off the original book price of $21.99, and not the $15.99. Meaning for me to get that 65% I would have to order a minimum of 1000 books that would have cost me $7.70 per book, which is equal to $7,700.00. I don't have this kind of money. Now you see why I said you would be there best customer.

If I did I would have went the traditional self-publish route of putting out 10 to 15 thousand dollars for my first run. -Still if I would have done my homework, it would not cost me half that much. At the moment it's cheaper for me to advertise and promote my novel than it is for me to buy it and sell, because discount starts at 40% for me at $21.99, which is about $13.19 each, not including the shipping. Luckily I'm also a book retailer, meaning I can get my 40% off the actual retail price like all the other retailers, which is at a cost of $9.59 per book, but even this is too high to purchase the book to sale, or distribute, which is a completely another story and topic.

Okay so what is my solution to these issues? Do what I avoided from the start, be my own publisher completely from pen to shelf. -I'll tell you how it's done in another month or two after I've gone through the motions.


Peace



P.S. Oh and please buy the book from amazon where it's currently $12.95 at the time of this written blog.

If I can't have her - Man to Man

Last week I was watching the news, and they brought on this mother and her daughter. Nice chocolate peoples. The mother was pretty. I'll give it to her, she was a cutie and had it going on. The little girl, her daughter wasn't too bad, but she had some disfiguring in the face and all. Now I'm going to keep this real. This child was shot three times as she shield her from the bullets, and was shot by her mother's EX-boyfriend.


Now I hear about craze boyfriends going off the deep end all the time here in the big city, and I'm sure it happens almost every other day some guy is blowing his woman, or ex-woman away. But I got pissed when I look at the little girl who had to battle and learn to walk again, to talk again, and under go so many operations. I wish I could find the article for you to read it for yourself.


What.....What I really want to ask is....."How f*** up in the mind we?"
This man shot this 4 or 5 year old little girl because he was about to shoot and kill his ex-girlfriend. He was arrested stating, that he couldn't have her, no one will.


I don't know how many brothers out there feel this way, but if you do, or ever did.......Go find some help. You have not matured enough to handle a relationship. Love can make you do some things you would never conceder, but murder should never be on list. If you love her, then love her enough to respect her wishes. Love her enough to respect the rights God gave to her.


If you can't handle separation, than you should never hook up. Yo, just keep some money in your pocket and buy a piece of butt, and switch up this way you don't get fixated on no one woman. Better yet, get some help.


I'm not trying to be funny here, but for real. If you have issues like this one, let me be the first to tell ya, you acting like a self-centered child and your attitude needs to be checked.



Peace

Love and Nightmares

Living through your worst nightmares. Have you ever been in a relationship where your lover, made you live thought the worst things you prayed would never come to pass? If so what was it?

How did you live through the horror?

Do you still think about them? Did you learn something from them?

I was just thinking and while traveling back, I remember something my wife said to me and that was, "I live through all my worst nightmares with you. There's nothing left you can surprise me with."

A strong statement. One that made a bastard like me go hummm. But she was wrong, I still haven't brought her home any outside babies. I think that's the last shocker I have left, and I never want it to come to pass.

So what's up, do you still have some shockers left, or have they all come to pass?